Objective conversation

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Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29

Your conversation will either build or break someone.
I know as a girl or let us say female, I love to talk. Many times I have come to realize that I can go for long hours without stopping. There are those times when a topic is so juicy that you have reference for every statement made by someone.
Do you ever stop to think if you are off topic? Yes, I do. That moment is when I actually realize that I am either starting to sound boring or totally off topic.
Why am I bringing this up? Good communication is not about using the best diction there is or having the best constructed paragraphs. A good conversation is one that is directed towards benefiting the listener and not the speaker. This therefore calls for well furnished conversations and this is what I term as objective conversation. We need to have conversation with the intent to edify others.
So many times, if you are not caught in the middle of gossip, you are ridiculing someone, or you are judging someone or you hating or scorning someone.
This is no edification. If you are a good listener and a good speaker too, you gradually master the art of excellent conversation. You eventually become sought after because of how much value you add to other people’s lives. The same goes for what we write about on the social media. I have read posts where people only say trash and I’m startled by what they say.  
So as we continue to have great conversations, let us be very cautious. Aim at adding value every time you choose to spend time with people.
You must live, laugh and love. How you do it is very important. 
Ponder on these things.


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