Daily Thoughts

Hello! Anyone!? Are you there? Come and lets share our random thoughts. So how about we talk about perception and how people make conclusion of who you really are. After a long time now, I have gradually come to understand we are surrounded by people with different personalities. Do not spend your life expecting everyone to see life the way you see it. Let us start by saying you always need to be able to present yourself in a way that appeals to many. However, you need to understand that when I say appeal, I’m referring to the different ways you need to present yourself. There is that office appeal, there is the home appeal, and there is the social circle appeal, the church, the international and so forth. You don’t have to pull off an act everyday just so you can fit into your circles. The second you start your conversation, people are watching you and listening carefully for what is coming out of you. Now for people like me, I will probably listen more to get...

I don’t know where I’m going but one thing I am sure of is I know where I have come from. The discussion of clear destiny is not an easy one for all and quite often it can be a puzzle especially as you try to figure out where exactly you are headed in life. Here is the point I am getting to, where you come from will often prepare you for where you are headed. Life experiences teach each one of us a lot. We either learn to adapt, adopt, adhere or embrace or better toughen up for what is ahead of us. A friend I have known for a long time has gone through some of the toughest life situations but she has come out strong. It is not so much the tears that she cried but the strength she gathered to face another day with courage. Each single time she has been torn apart by the problems surrounding her life, I have imagined she is giving up but no she has not. Aaaw, how I admire her! I am very proud of her and God has taught me much through her. Like the bible says, “Therefore do...

How often do you get out there and just be the person that people don’t often see? Do you ever let anyone meet that person you always rehearse when you are on your own? I know it might not be easy for some people but let me confess that I have recently realized the joy in just being you. The moment when you play like never before, joke and laugh away, dance and don’t care who is watching. It is totally refreshing to be that person. Very often this is evident in children. So because you are growing up, you tend to drop certain childhood tendencies for reasons best known to you. You discover that you are only avoiding wrong judgment. Our true self is who we really are at the point that we let go of all the stories, labels, and judgments that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are without the masks that people have often seen. Today I am going to remind you that your inner joy comes from being you. It is nurtured when you let your spirit free. It is...

When you s ay that someone has a "good personality" that implies they are likable, interesting and pleasant to be with.  I have often lived my life with a high belief that I ought to try and make others comfortable but quite often it is mistaken for trying to please people. This is where we lose track of the good motive and people take for granted the niceness presented before them. In the industry that I currently work in, it is very important to establish relationships with people. Once you establish the relationship, retention of the clients is a no brainer. The one thing I am sure of about social connection is that there is value addition that will be a constant at all times even when events go sour. Once you have something of value benefit from the other party, you will always have a reason small or big to try and make things right.  Build up on your character on a daily. Work out something that nurtures your relationship abilities. Aim at listening to peopl...

They say, "out of sight is out of mind." The more I give this thought, the more I appreciate the value of keeping those close to me at heart. There is an evolution of a standard that we now brand as human where we say do not contact them not until they make an initiative. That could sound like a good approach to silent people but no its not. The truth is it breeds a whole new level of distance in relationships be it family, friends, workmates and the list goes on. Coping with insensitive people or rather the un bothered type can be derailing especially when you live by the peace talk and dialogue approach in life.  Teaching one to always stay in touch with people is a choice. You either try to do it or you do not try at all. Our lives are daily comprised of choices and caring about others is one of the best choices we can ever make. There is so much peace in knowing that you have invested a great deal of your time in people. It could be a text but you can trust it will s...

When people go up the ladder, let it be your opportunity to be inspired. I have seen many of my friends renovate their lives and take on positions that I so dearly admire. They are either outside this country, married, holding a unique post in some companies; some are entrepreneurs, spiritual warriors, and great mentors and name it. My reflections after saying this are centered on the inner voice that speaks daily within me and the echo is so clear. Sometimes it’s like a whisper and I find myself lost in imaginations of what could have been, how it should be, or if it would be. I really don’t like that feeling. If I let it go on, it only stirs up self pity.  I believe by now many of us have to daily identify how best we can navigate through life. Even after you see the compass and seem to know the direction, you still come back at the crossroads and pause to ask more questions before you decide to advance. Why do I bring up this subject today? I have purposed to speak ...

Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 Your conversation will either build or break someone. I know as a girl or let us say female, I love to talk. Many times I have come to realize that I can go for long hours without stopping. There are those times when a topic is so juicy that you have reference for every statement made by someone. Do you ever stop to think if you are off topic? Yes, I do. That moment is when I actually realize that I am either starting to sound boring or totally off topic. Why am I bringing this up? Good communication is not about using the best diction there is or having the best constructed paragraphs. A good conversation is one that is directed towards benefiting the listener and not the speaker. This therefore calls for well furnished conversations and this is what I term as objective conversation. We need to have ...