Daily Thoughts

I have come again with yet another inspiration to share an authentic version of myself in my day to day life. If you have met me in person or for those that know me, you have probably experienced a version of me that is dedicated to the work i do. I have over the time encountered a number of experiences that have slowly fruited into a desire to tell you about my work, my challenges, my wins and some of the solutions that i have adapted to survive through the times.  So who am I? I am not my job but my job does reflect some bits of me. I love my job and there is so much that I learn from it daily. I have worked in the hospitality industry for sometime now and i could comfortably say that on a scale of 1-10, I think am at 7 in growth. It is a sector where you encounter people daily and will be challenged to handle all situations you encounter with a unique approach. When I say this, I am referring to customers, employers and employees. Most of what I will share will be an accumulatio...

Within the snap of a finger, the time has gone as fast as it comes. I never knew I would ever wish for days not to go by as fast. The sun kisses the sky and dives back into the ground every single day. The rains touch the earth and jump back into their hiding place. I wish I knew how to negotiate with each day but I guess that is just the way it is. I’m reminded of a scripture:  There is  a time  for  everything  and a season for every activity under the heavens:  Ecclesiastes 3:15. Life has crafted itself into a garden before me. The weeds and the fruits all seat together but I know one thing for sure; there is something good to pick out. On some days, it’s barely a good fruit but I must find the courage to wait on the good fruit.  Faith calls out my name daily but I seem to stray on. Love embraces me but sometimes I feel alone and I almost don’t recognize her.  Where is Heaven when I need to simply disappear? ...

To our graduates, it’s such a coincidence that all this happens during a season of the current fever of the 10year challenge. I haven’t really been part of it but I have enjoyed the extreme contrasts for some of our social media family members. So why am I bringing this up, let’s just say you need to know what’s on the other side. While you were in that class, perhaps your fantasies make your ten years later look rosy. No one should stop you from  dreaming. If you didn’t paint your fantasies with possibilities, it is not too late to actually fasten your seatbelt and face the reality of life after graduation. Be a pacesetter, be a go-getter, face your battles with creativity and trust me you could swim through. Way back in my home, we used to sit on the mat... it was five of us. When we got our first dining table, it was a set of four chairs. You can only imagine the protocol that followed to sit on the famous stool and coffee table to eat a meal when away from the main table. So...

Not so long ago, I informed a friend that life without color for a lady is plain. He seemed not to see it that way. Perhaps not every lady. The era of makeup does throw a bit of light onto that statement.  We choose how we want to see life. For some of you, if the music stops playing, then your rhythm will stop while for someone else they still have a continued rhythm even without a sound. It is how I visualize life in my head without the actual crayons. I have attended events that have allowed me to experience variations in choices of color and artistry. You can tell the character of a person by what they surround themselves with. For my case, I love a good quality book for a journal with pages that will keep me writing. I enjoy the feel of a good pen as I write my thoughts. Such is the same with life, surround yourself with what articulates your personality. Hang with friends that add impact to you, people that won't judge you when you chose to dance naked in the rain. Sit wi...

Hello! Anyone!? Are you there? Come and lets share our random thoughts. So how about we talk about perception and how people make conclusion of who you really are. After a long time now, I have gradually come to understand we are surrounded by people with different personalities. Do not spend your life expecting everyone to see life the way you see it. Let us start by saying you always need to be able to present yourself in a way that appeals to many. However, you need to understand that when I say appeal, I’m referring to the different ways you need to present yourself. There is that office appeal, there is the home appeal, and there is the social circle appeal, the church, the international and so forth. You don’t have to pull off an act everyday just so you can fit into your circles. The second you start your conversation, people are watching you and listening carefully for what is coming out of you. Now for people like me, I will probably listen more to get...

I don’t know where I’m going but one thing I am sure of is I know where I have come from. The discussion of clear destiny is not an easy one for all and quite often it can be a puzzle especially as you try to figure out where exactly you are headed in life. Here is the point I am getting to, where you come from will often prepare you for where you are headed. Life experiences teach each one of us a lot. We either learn to adapt, adopt, adhere or embrace or better toughen up for what is ahead of us. A friend I have known for a long time has gone through some of the toughest life situations but she has come out strong. It is not so much the tears that she cried but the strength she gathered to face another day with courage. Each single time she has been torn apart by the problems surrounding her life, I have imagined she is giving up but no she has not. Aaaw, how I admire her! I am very proud of her and God has taught me much through her. Like the bible says, “Therefore do...

How often do you get out there and just be the person that people don’t often see? Do you ever let anyone meet that person you always rehearse when you are on your own? I know it might not be easy for some people but let me confess that I have recently realized the joy in just being you. The moment when you play like never before, joke and laugh away, dance and don’t care who is watching. It is totally refreshing to be that person. Very often this is evident in children. So because you are growing up, you tend to drop certain childhood tendencies for reasons best known to you. You discover that you are only avoiding wrong judgment. Our true self is who we really are at the point that we let go of all the stories, labels, and judgments that we have placed upon ourselves. It is who we naturally are without the masks that people have often seen. Today I am going to remind you that your inner joy comes from being you. It is nurtured when you let your spirit free. It is...

When you s ay that someone has a "good personality" that implies they are likable, interesting and pleasant to be with.  I have often lived my life with a high belief that I ought to try and make others comfortable but quite often it is mistaken for trying to please people. This is where we lose track of the good motive and people take for granted the niceness presented before them. In the industry that I currently work in, it is very important to establish relationships with people. Once you establish the relationship, retention of the clients is a no brainer. The one thing I am sure of about social connection is that there is value addition that will be a constant at all times even when events go sour. Once you have something of value benefit from the other party, you will always have a reason small or big to try and make things right.  Build up on your character on a daily. Work out something that nurtures your relationship abilities. Aim at listening to peopl...

They say, "out of sight is out of mind." The more I give this thought, the more I appreciate the value of keeping those close to me at heart. There is an evolution of a standard that we now brand as human where we say do not contact them not until they make an initiative. That could sound like a good approach to silent people but no its not. The truth is it breeds a whole new level of distance in relationships be it family, friends, workmates and the list goes on. Coping with insensitive people or rather the un bothered type can be derailing especially when you live by the peace talk and dialogue approach in life.  Teaching one to always stay in touch with people is a choice. You either try to do it or you do not try at all. Our lives are daily comprised of choices and caring about others is one of the best choices we can ever make. There is so much peace in knowing that you have invested a great deal of your time in people. It could be a text but you can trust it will s...

When people go up the ladder, let it be your opportunity to be inspired. I have seen many of my friends renovate their lives and take on positions that I so dearly admire. They are either outside this country, married, holding a unique post in some companies; some are entrepreneurs, spiritual warriors, and great mentors and name it. My reflections after saying this are centered on the inner voice that speaks daily within me and the echo is so clear. Sometimes it’s like a whisper and I find myself lost in imaginations of what could have been, how it should be, or if it would be. I really don’t like that feeling. If I let it go on, it only stirs up self pity.  I believe by now many of us have to daily identify how best we can navigate through life. Even after you see the compass and seem to know the direction, you still come back at the crossroads and pause to ask more questions before you decide to advance. Why do I bring up this subject today? I have purposed to speak ...

Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 Your conversation will either build or break someone. I know as a girl or let us say female, I love to talk. Many times I have come to realize that I can go for long hours without stopping. There are those times when a topic is so juicy that you have reference for every statement made by someone. Do you ever stop to think if you are off topic? Yes, I do. That moment is when I actually realize that I am either starting to sound boring or totally off topic. Why am I bringing this up? Good communication is not about using the best diction there is or having the best constructed paragraphs. A good conversation is one that is directed towards benefiting the listener and not the speaker. This therefore calls for well furnished conversations and this is what I term as objective conversation. We need to have ...

It is a wonderful feeling to get approval when you take a decision or make a choice. The world is full of different people with diverse ideas and all sorts of creativity. So how do you know if you are on track? Good question! I have learned from personal experience that certain events will occur in our lives so we are furnished for the times ahead. Do not be in a hurry to condemn yourself. God gives many of us second chances but we remain in denial because of self condemnation. God's grace is sufficient for all situations. Allow yourself to take one step at a time. Learn from your mistake. Ensure to always have plan B when A fails. Seek counsel, make reference to previous attempts. So let's all be patient with ourselves and let's take one step at a time.

I really thought very lowly of myself in the past with no confidence that people really cared about me. I cared about people from a distance with a wish that they would know how much I cared but in vain.  When I look back, I was simply living in denial. It has gradually dawned on me that the choice to invite people into my life is mine. We each have a choice to be there for someone or distance ourselves from them. Life comes with diverse opportunities that we can make use of. We all have what it takes to build great networks. Social gatherings, family events and our corporate circles come with all kinds of opportunities.  T he bible makes it clear that God too does not want us to walk alone. He will always walk wit h us wherever we go and with whom . Joshua 1:9 New International Version (NIV) Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the  Lord  your God will be wi...

Balancing your life with God Our  daily lives are comprised of a consistent effort to figure out who we are, where are we heading, our purpose, our achievements, our goals,  name it. It is in those times that you seem to have another party talk to you. It comes off as a silent whisper but it is real. It may not be a person physically talking to you..it is a still and calm voice. I have learnd overtime when you delight yourself in the Lord, He works towards fulfilling your heart's desire.  That still quite voice is the voice of God. When you pray and seek Him, He will find you. How then will you know it's  God? That is the beautiful part. Pray and read your bible. Hang around people who will enrich you with motivation and inspire you. Your life is a daily act of worship. Let your worship be excellent. Balance God in all your equations. 

So a team of people I had just met after I was recently added to whatsApp group were all geared to making an event happen. Bring this.. bring that and so forth. Question was who will bring what?? So the event passed anyway… but I was inwardly furious because the so many promises were not fulfilled. The big realization was not so many people will keep their word. Some will make empty promises to keep up appearances or make a false reputation. (Let me pause for a bit….I hope you have not seen me as one of those. If yes, my earnest apologies) I used to be the shy type when it came to speaking out my mind. I always respect and value other people’s feelings. That is what some of us would refer to as being sensitive. Let us not pretend. Someone I know once told me never to be embarrassed to name and shame and that was one big lesson to embrace. These team agendas always come with merits and demerits. The saying goes too many cooks spoil the broth and truly some team work wil...

  This feeling can start from an early age. Even a three year old will admire some one who is wearing a beautiful gown. It is a sweet feeling of admiration and you may not be  the first to get this feeling... and surely you will not be the last. its feel like such a generational thing... I always wished i would be a brides maid and sadly i went through school till the university without knowing the feeling of being one. I have always reasoned that it is possible that i was not the ideal candidate according to the brides i know and the last reason for me, maybe i am not as beautiful as the other girls..lol (that is actually my bottom line reason of why i think i was never picked) I personally think this is a sweet feeling that every girl should embrace. Let it be. i personally love to attend weddings and being the emotional type, i cry a lot during some of these speech sessions with a bit of me hoping no one around me has noticed but i'm sure some of these awkward moments d...

 GOD gives us friends so we can share  So the day i met my best friend,,,, He asked me to play a game with him. The saying goes two heads are always better than one. Truly this invitation  was the beginning of a friendship that saw this saying come to life, We have known each other for more than 6 years and we are now celebrating the request i never thought would yield into such a strong and loving bond. He has become the friend i tell my secrets, i tell him all the awkward moments i have when no one notices. He will tell me about so many things like we are on the same couch and yet we are miles and oceans apart. I write this today because i am celebrating this friend. God will always bring people into your life that will transform you and God intends these kind of people to also be blessed by you. Its not a give and take and take process. it is a sharing process.  Have you taken the time to thank GOD for the friends he brings into your life? have you ta...

 Build your legacy today Today is yet another day, The days have gone so fast. The hours this day have gone so fast too... it is 7:28pm when i look at how fast the days have gone, all i can feel is how old im getting...... As the days get closer, we all must work at  achieving something great. I was told that this is called legacy.  What legacy will you leave behind ? So many will chase after your inheritance  but it will perish once utilized The other side of all this is that your legacy  will  never perish.